We have reached the point in the season when parents have the opportunity to speak with their children. While I can appreciate how excited you are to hear your son’s voice for the first time in two weeks, I am sure this experience is a “mixed blessing.” While we, as adults, are skilled in the art of communication, have the ability to recall dates and events with clarity, and have the life experience to embrace the treasured opportunity to speak with a loved one, conversations with our children often leave us confused and craving more information.
While our children are clearly intelligent, most boys’ attention spans are rather short. Little boys “live in the moment,” and when prodded for information, often become frustrated rather than communicative. I am sure you have noticed this when you run to your mailbox to receive a letter from your boy. As you rip open the envelope, hoping to read a novel filled with superlatives that describe every game and a full description of each bunkmate, you are probably underwhelmed when the letter is describing the most recent event that occurred in your son’s life and concludes with a reminder to bring candy on visiting day.
Every camper knows that over the next few days, he will be receiving a phone call from his parents. Very often, when the camper hears his name called in the dining room, the thrill of hearing his name mentioned is neutralized by an elevated heartbeat, and a bit of anxiety. While these phone calls are eagerly anticipated and welcomed by most, some children feel so ensconced in the camp routine that they prefer not to receive them.
A few suggestions when making your call:
Keep the conversation light. Don’t depose your child. Rather, let him drive the conversation and tell you what’s on his mind. Try not to question things that you read in a letter, because your son is not likely to remember what he wrote. Tell your child that you are proud of him; however, don’t stress how much you miss him. Ask questions such as, “What is your favorite activity?” And, focus on your son’s experience at camp rather than what is happening at home.
In just two short weeks, you will be joining us for visiting day. This will be a wonderful opportunity for you to meet your son’s counselors and bunkmates, and to see us in action. I promise you that after seeing camp in real-time, you will have a much greater sense of appreciation for what your son has accomplished.
